How can the restoration of the marital relationship after infidelity?

Infidelity is dangerous is not easy to repair relations then, some marriages have been striving, and sometimes succeed in building confidence, which lost to prevent the disintegration of the family and the dispersion of the boys.

«Madam Net» met with a consultant relations and the development of family ACT Center, and lecturer Effat the Department of Psychology at the University, Khaled Fouad Cindy, how to give us a confidence-building after infidelity and restore life to normal.

Beginning says Khaled know infidelity as the entry of one of the two partners in an illicit relationship is not legal with a partner outside the marital relationship is consciously to get intimate emotional needs, not just the sexual aspect also comes to the mind of many couples, especially males, indicate infidelity to a defect What, either in a marital relationship or in the same individual, and therefore the infidelity are exhibitors from the symptoms of the disease and not the disease itself.

• reasons for infidelity:

First, individual reasons «private individual» such as the sex of the person and his character, and some mental illnesses, and men are more daring to do the adultery of the ladies, and some weak characters that are easy to influence them Vtkon usually vulnerable to exploitation to engage in an illicit relationship, or a person is infected with the second pole disease , mental illness pushes the individual to practice multiple intimate relationships.

Second, ill and not to the satisfaction of the marital relationship to one of the two partners, both on an emotional level or what this intimate partner pays with time to look for a suitable partner outside the marital relationship.

Third: environmental cause, means having a partner or in an environment that helps stimulate infidelity as places of prostitution, and abuse of alcohol and drugs.

How can the parties build confidence after infidelity?

• First, the partner who has adultery do the following:

Full recognition of his partner what he did, and not try to justify what he had done, or blame the other party.

Submit a written letter of apology for the wrong he has done, for causing pain and injury to the feelings of his partner, and his betrayal of the trust that was between them, then the pledge of trust, honesty and sincerity in what is left.

Cut off the relationship with the outside party fully and directly.

• Second, the partner who has his betrayal:

Deep thinking and analysis in which the errors that occurred, and its role in pushing his partner to look for external and correct these errors relationship.

Expression fully positive and negative feelings about controlling him or her.

Real forgiveness and to forgive self and partner on what went wrong and move forward in life.

• Third, the two partners together:

Dialogue a day and continuously for an hour about what happened, how it happened and why it happened; to reach a deeper understanding of himself and remove the negative aspects of what happened.

Frank and direct expression of the needs of each party to the other and not embarrassed by the question.

New laws marital relationship so as to ensure not to repeat the mistakes of the past.

Resorting to specialized help by Consultants of family if necessary.